When I talk with my mother clients I often hear about “mom guilt”. What I have learned from my own journey of processing “mom guilt” (that bubbles up after working long hours, travel, or having a career that I love) is this…
Read MoreYou and your money are in a relationship. What kind of relationship do you have? Is it challenged, resistant, stubborn, fearful? Is it easy, supportive, trusting, expansive? Most of the time whats creates a challenged relationship is vagueness, unclear agreements, expectations, unconscious projections. Vagueness creates anxiety. So the antidote to vagueness is clarity. Clarity creates calm. Learn more…
Read MoreI take my clients through an exercise that is so simple, yet so transformative, and often times the first time we’ve ever felt truly heard and understood. It’s called having a loving conversation with yourself. In the article I take you through real life examples of how we talk harshly with ourselves and how we can shift into loving conversations.
Read MoreWhat often happens when we start to identify and lean into our dreams is that our ego wants to keep us safe and the it shows up in the form of limiting beliefs. Our mind starts telling us why our dreams can’t happen before we even start. This can happen so quickly, and often times in such a clever way, that you aren’t even aware. This journal entry will show you how I help clients move through limiting beliefs into creating new ones that do support them.
Read MoreI receive a lot of questions from clients who are still working in a career or job that they don’t like, but haven’t full transitioned out of yet. This puts clients in an challenging position, that is similar to when you are still living with someone even after you’ve separated, divorced, or broken up. It is clear that there’s nothing left, but you are still there until you can find a new place for yourself. So, how do you stay happy, focused, and energetically protected in a job that you hate, do not enjoy doing, and could even be a toxic?
Read MoreWe are entering that time of the year where the temperatures and darker days invite us inside, not only snuggling on the sofa, but inside of ourselves to reflect on 2018 and recharge for 2019.
My belief is that we must clear away debris before there is room for new energy to enter. This includes decluttering the mind, beliefs, stories, energetically, spiritually, emotionally, as well as our tangible physical space. This is the mission for my work in the world, and for my ending and beginning ritual.
Read MoreGrowth is not comfortable. If it was more people would be going to the gym, leaving that lifeless relationship, putting energy behind the business idea in their heart. Growing requires stretching to new levels. Growth asks us to go somewhere we haven’t gone before so the path is unknown, uncertain and can feel scary. Growth is also not linear so we can easily take two steps forward and two steps back before moving three steps forward. But growth is inevitable and is the only thing we can rely on. If we are not growing, we are dying.
Read MoreLetting go of control.... Phew, am I being offered opportunity after opportunity to learn the next level of this concept. Letting go of control is a common phrase in the self development world but what does it really mean and how do we practice it? Below you’ll find real life situations and practical ways of letting go.
Read MoreI am an introvert through and through. Regardless of what people might think or see on the outside, I was that child and adult until just recently, who got purple splotches when talking to strangers or speaking in front of a group. As a child I was too shy to talk to my teachers, extended aunts and uncles. Through my adulthood I pushed myself outside of my comfort zone but with a lot of resistance and awkward moments. So, for me to willingly register to have a booth at an expo and publically speak was short of a miracle.
Read MoreSomething is bothering you. A challenging situation at work, your relationship isn’t working out the way you had hoped it would, your kids are testing your patience, you’re having trouble finding a job and money is tight. These are some of the challenges that my clients have struggled with this week alone. We all have challenges and things that disturb our peace. What matters more than fixing the problem, is looking at how we are relating to ourselves as we go through the issue.
Read MoreI see it over and over again from women I talk to at my circles and in discovery calls. I found myself in the same situation over and over again too. How do you hire a coach when your finances are limited? In my experience, and in a lot of the coaching books, when people make a choice to be ALL IN to life, this energetically propels you to move mountains, and life brings abundance ALL IN to you. Probably more so than you ever have in your life. This is where the magic happens. And yes, it is scary as hell. Probably the scariest investment you will ever make.
Read MoreIf you want the short story, here it is. The roller coaster of keeping my life looking perfect and calm on the outside with a successful career, nice car, apartment by the ocean, yet feeling utterly miserable inside became too exhausting to continue. Deep down I knew there was a better life for me. A happy life. A fulfilling life. A soulful life. A healthy life. If you want the longer version, keep reading.
Read MoreI admit it. I entered that breathwork class with a bit of skepticism. I thought I had accessed all there was to experience to a certain extent. However, simultaneously I was willing, open and ready to know myself, my path more profoundly and intimately. I found myself at this interesting juxtapose that I'd experienced other times in my life during adolescence, college, young adulthood. Everything looked good on the outside, but everything felt ungrounded and untethered on the inside. My life was good, but I wanted great.
Read MoreForgiveness is a hard concept to grasp. Especially when we feel justified in our resentment when someone has done something "wrong" or "bad" to us. However holding onto resentments has detrimental effects on our health, both physically and mentally.
Read MoreDo you ever find yourself saying this? If so, you're not alone. Usually what triggers us into saying this phrase is that we set an intention for something to happen, become attached to that intention happening exactly the way we envision it, and then become resentful when it doesn’t happen. Getting triggered and feeling like "it's not fair" is an awesome opportunity to practice your consciousness skills, your mindfulness tools, and your spiritual practices.
Read MoreWhat happens when you are sleeping versus awake? The eyes are closed and you are unconscious to what is happening in human life. What happens when you are spiritually asleep versus spiritually awake? The eyes are open and you are unconscious to what is happening in your human life.
What I've found in watching myself and my clients transition and up level is that there are three distinct layers in the process of awakening.
Read MoreI learned early on in my life the different ways people grieve by watching them. I was able to form my own path to grief; a way to accept and to connect with the spirit after the human form has dissipated. I've worked with many clients over the past ten years on grieving and rebirth after the death of a loved one. The common denominator is that there is no way around it... the only way is through the grief.
Read MoreThere's such an emphasis on becoming mindful. I too place an emphasis on meditation as part of my coaching. There is scientific data that proves how meditation improves mood, physiology and even makes you smarter. But the process of becoming mindful can be daunting and discouraging. If you have trouble meditating, here is one of the most simple tools that I use to support clients in practicing mindfulness.
Read MoreTrust me, I understand feeling stressed. There's so much to do in a day. But I like to think of stress in a different way than most people do. To me, I like it when I notice that I am feeling stressed. Why? Because stress is a red flag that we need to wake up, slow down, create space. When we use stress as our friend, not our enemy, we can gain so much.
Read MoreNobody is perfect. We are human. We make mistakes. We forget self-care. We don't prioritize rest. We forget to ask for help. We forget to keep up with our personal finances. It is okay not to be perfect. But what happens is we judge ourselves when we aren't perfect. Here's how to free yourself of self-judgment.
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