When I talk with my mother clients I often hear about “mom guilt”. What I have learned from my own journey of processing “mom guilt” (that bubbles up after working long hours, travel, or having a career that I love) is this…
Read MoreUsing what disturbs your peace, what you get triggered by, or what you are fearful of, becomes your biggest spiritual teacher and your greatest source of love. Your triggers are the debris that clog up your spiritual and human pipes. It is what creates stagnation. So, what we want to do is clean out the pipe with awareness, forgiveness, so the truth can flow through.
Read MoreI take my clients through an exercise that is so simple, yet so transformative, and often times the first time we’ve ever felt truly heard and understood. It’s called having a loving conversation with yourself. In the article I take you through real life examples of how we talk harshly with ourselves and how we can shift into loving conversations.
Read MoreProcrastination is one of the most discussed topics in coaching sessions. Where does it stem from? How can we move through?
As with most obstacles and challenges, we can often want to fix them. Instead, true, sustainable change and transformation from obstacles and challenges comes through understanding and healing the core issue. We can fix the challenge, or we can heal it. My method of coaching centers on healing.
Procrastination can stem from many sources, such as fear of failure, excessive perfectionism, low energy levels, and lack of focus. So, where does fear of failure and perfectionism come from? At the core is our inherent worth, shame, guilt, and lovability.
Read MoreWe are entering that time of the year where the temperatures and darker days invite us inside, not only snuggling on the sofa, but inside of ourselves to reflect on 2018 and recharge for 2019.
My belief is that we must clear away debris before there is room for new energy to enter. This includes decluttering the mind, beliefs, stories, energetically, spiritually, emotionally, as well as our tangible physical space. This is the mission for my work in the world, and for my ending and beginning ritual.
Read MoreGrowth is not comfortable. If it was more people would be going to the gym, leaving that lifeless relationship, putting energy behind the business idea in their heart. Growing requires stretching to new levels. Growth asks us to go somewhere we haven’t gone before so the path is unknown, uncertain and can feel scary. Growth is also not linear so we can easily take two steps forward and two steps back before moving three steps forward. But growth is inevitable and is the only thing we can rely on. If we are not growing, we are dying.
Read MoreLetting go of control.... Phew, am I being offered opportunity after opportunity to learn the next level of this concept. Letting go of control is a common phrase in the self development world but what does it really mean and how do we practice it? Below you’ll find real life situations and practical ways of letting go.
Read MoreSomething is bothering you. A challenging situation at work, your relationship isn’t working out the way you had hoped it would, your kids are testing your patience, you’re having trouble finding a job and money is tight. These are some of the challenges that my clients have struggled with this week alone. We all have challenges and things that disturb our peace. What matters more than fixing the problem, is looking at how we are relating to ourselves as we go through the issue.
Read MoreAutumn is a time to harvest, release and let go. Gathering herbs, harvesting vegetables, bundling and canning them for the winter was something that my neighbor did each year. As I grew up, went to college, entered young adulthood, I lost contact with the rituals and ceremonies underneath of the season. But my soul remembered and longed to reconnect with the pink sunsets and geese flying south for the winter, those leafless branches that looked like black skeleton bones against the dusk sky. Over the past few years of integrating Breathwork into my daily life and studying shamanism, that ancient, tribal, witchy part of me that had been in the closet, has been reborn. Here are some of my favorite herbs, rituals and ceremonies for fall new moon, full moon and autumn equinox.
Read MoreI can't tell you how many times in the past I would have an idea, write it down, and then let it fade away in a journal, stashed in my drawer underneath sentimental cards. I usually have at least one person in every batch of new clients that has that notebook full of entrepreneurial ideas that they never take action to build. You feel me?
That is why I've been studying some of my most successful clients, and tracing my own times of rapid growth and stagnation. What have I found? Being decisive is key and in order to be decisive someone has to be connected to and trust themselves. This is a lot of the work I do as a coach with my clients. Teaching them to trust their gut and be decisive with it.
Read MoreI admit it. I entered that breathwork class with a bit of skepticism. I thought I had accessed all there was to experience to a certain extent. However, simultaneously I was willing, open and ready to know myself, my path more profoundly and intimately. I found myself at this interesting juxtapose that I'd experienced other times in my life during adolescence, college, young adulthood. Everything looked good on the outside, but everything felt ungrounded and untethered on the inside. My life was good, but I wanted great.
Read MoreForgiveness is a hard concept to grasp. Especially when we feel justified in our resentment when someone has done something "wrong" or "bad" to us. However holding onto resentments has detrimental effects on our health, both physically and mentally.
Read MoreDo you ever find yourself saying this? If so, you're not alone. Usually what triggers us into saying this phrase is that we set an intention for something to happen, become attached to that intention happening exactly the way we envision it, and then become resentful when it doesn’t happen. Getting triggered and feeling like "it's not fair" is an awesome opportunity to practice your consciousness skills, your mindfulness tools, and your spiritual practices.
Read MoreWhat happens when you are sleeping versus awake? The eyes are closed and you are unconscious to what is happening in human life. What happens when you are spiritually asleep versus spiritually awake? The eyes are open and you are unconscious to what is happening in your human life.
What I've found in watching myself and my clients transition and up level is that there are three distinct layers in the process of awakening.
Read More"If you are happy, notify your face."
My mother used to say this to me as a child. When I was sad or frustrated, I hated hearing this common phrase, because it felt hard to smile when I wasn't happy. At other times in my life when I was learning how to feel my emotions for the first time, I didn't want to bypass my true feelings and fake a smile. I had done that for too long. But now as an adult, who understands the power of a smile, I understand the wisdom beneath my mom's words.
Read MoreI learned early on in my life the different ways people grieve by watching them. I was able to form my own path to grief; a way to accept and to connect with the spirit after the human form has dissipated. I've worked with many clients over the past ten years on grieving and rebirth after the death of a loved one. The common denominator is that there is no way around it... the only way is through the grief.
Read MoreThere's such an emphasis on becoming mindful. I too place an emphasis on meditation as part of my coaching. There is scientific data that proves how meditation improves mood, physiology and even makes you smarter. But the process of becoming mindful can be daunting and discouraging. If you have trouble meditating, here is one of the most simple tools that I use to support clients in practicing mindfulness.
Read MoreTrust me, I understand feeling stressed. There's so much to do in a day. But I like to think of stress in a different way than most people do. To me, I like it when I notice that I am feeling stressed. Why? Because stress is a red flag that we need to wake up, slow down, create space. When we use stress as our friend, not our enemy, we can gain so much.
Read MoreNobody is perfect. We are human. We make mistakes. We forget self-care. We don't prioritize rest. We forget to ask for help. We forget to keep up with our personal finances. It is okay not to be perfect. But what happens is we judge ourselves when we aren't perfect. Here's how to free yourself of self-judgment.
Read MoreI first learned about the "Owner versus Victim" mindset from Steve Chandler back in 2010. It was such a startling and simplified way to distinguish in the nuances of my language and where I was residing in my mindset, that was determining my actions. What I also learned from Steve Chandler's distinctions is that ownership versus victimhood can be applied to all areas of life, not just work, money or business.
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