What Your Inner Child Really Needs

Two of the most common mistakes I see in coaching...
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1. Thinking inner child work is not necessary or has nothing to do with business, finances, or taking massive action.
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2. Cheerleading (and spiritually bypassing) your inner child and wondering why the same thing keeps happening.

Most of my clients do not want to practice inner child work, at first. Especially within “business coaching” context, and with men and women who are high achieving. They want to take action and make shit happen. They are good at doing that. Often times because it was too painful to be a child (or the way they got love).
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But even in the business aspect of my coaching, if something is not working for a client, it almost always traces back to the inner child.

Thinking inner child work is silly or unimportant is a common defense mechanism. I fought inner child work for close to two years until I noticed the same patterns circling around and around. The reason that pattern kept happening was because it was not healed and it was still longing for my attention.

Cheerleading your inner child means you tell her it’s going to be okay, things will get better, she’ll look back on it and see how strong she was. Talking to your inner child like that will only make her shut down even more. When you cheerlead you miss the intimate and precious opportunity to be there for her in ways the adults in her life never were - to heal.
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What your inner child needs is for you to tell her that you see her, that you understand how sad or angry or sacred she is, and that you’re there to listen, and that you love her no matter what. Then your job is to hold space for her, listening with the ears of your heart, and reflect what you hear. We transmute energy by listening.

If you need an example of how inner child work can shift business, listen to the podcast episode with Thomas called, “Drop the Facade and Be Your True Self”. I loved this episode because I didn’t know Thomas, and I had no idea he would open up as much as he did, but he gave us a huge gift.