Upset and Working With Your Inner Child
Congratulations on taking the time to work with and heal your inner child!
Whenever you notice yourself getting angry or scared, feeling insecure, alone, etc., almost 99% of the time it’s not really you who is getting triggered, it’s a younger part inside of you that is feeling upset, sad, afraid, alone, nervous, left out, unloved.
So instead of forcing yourself to push through it, fix it, or blame it on someone else’s behavior (insert husband, parents, siblings, children, schools, vendors, etc), pause and check in on that younger one.
What disturbs your peace, what you get triggered by, or what you are fearful of, becomes your biggest spiritual teacher and your greatest source of love.
Your triggers are the debris that clog up your spiritual and human pipes. It is what creates stagnation. So, what we want to do is clean out the pipe with awareness, forgiveness, so the truth can flow through.
Use all of your upsets to heal, grow, and evolve. Keep in mind the work is never done. When we resolve bigger issues, then its usually the minutia that teaches us.
The steps below will support you through the process of identifying the upset and begin healing it. The process is simple but if you fully emerge yourself into it and allow your little one to feel everything that comes forward, you will feel the energy shift and the opportunity to heal.
1. Ask yourself.
What are the judgments about the person, place or thing?
What are the beliefs about the person, place, or thing?
What emotions is that creating inside of you?
2. Apply self-forgiveness.
Go through each of the judgments, beliefs, stories and forgive yourself for each one.
I forgive myself for buying into the belief that...
I forgive myself for judging myself or the other as...
3. State the new truth.
I am no longer available for...
Because the truth is...
Now check in with that little one. What is she feeling? What does she need? How can you give that to her now?
Then consider how much she needed back then and how often to do you connect with her now? Do you play with her? Do you talk with her? Do you listen to her? Do you validate her? Love her?
Because once those younger ones feel heard, understood, seem, loved, whatever challenge you were originally having lightens and is much easier to process and move forward.
Take a moment today to scoop up that little one. Hug her. Hold her. Love her. Let her know you are there.
